Thursday, June 20, 2013

My Head Is...Empty


Guys. This is weird. For the first time in four years, my head is empty. There is no story banging around. No characters shouting. No plot forking out in obscure directions (or not forking out at all and making me insane). No steamy smooching scenarios.

Nothing. And that is okay. Temporarily.

I am taking the summer off from writing. I will be reading published books, for fun, for the first time in a while. In fact, I have quite a list, and I'm looking forward to it!

But still...it's really strange not to have a story trying to work itself out in my mind. I feel slightly lost and stripped bare or something. 

As far as writing goes I'm not able to devise stories at will. I cannot sit down and brainstorm or write an outline. Either the story comes to me out of nowhere and completely takes over my mind, or it doesn't. My bestie is a very prolific writer. When NA became popular she was like, "Ooh, that sounds fun! I think I want to write an NA!" And within a week she had a solid idea. I have no idea how she does that. I'm in awe. 

Autumn and Cayden (not to be confused with Kaidan)


People ask me all the time to write scenes from Kai's point of view, but I can't force it. The two scenes I did write had flooded my brain long before I agreed to put them on paper. Kai wouldn't shut his sexy mouth. And I love when that happens. I really do. 

The thing is, it's probably good that I don't have a story to tell at this moment. I really, really need to focus on my children this summer. They get shafted when it comes to my time. Half the time when we're together, I'm on the computer, and let's be real. I'm not paying much attention to them, and they know it. I simply do not have enough "child free" time to get all my work done (roughly 10 hours a week), so it leaks into my time with them.

One night a couple months ago, after I'd put my (then 6-year-old) daughter to bed, she came in and asked if I could lay with her a little longer. I was right in the middle of writing. Naturally I tried to tell her no. Tried to tell her I was working. And I can still remember the pained look on her face when she said, "What's more important, Mommy? Work or the people you love?"

Autumn, age 7
She really said that!! And she was serious, not trying to be manipulative as far as I could tell. It was definitely a stab to the heart. So I closed my laptop and snuggled my girl, replaying those words over and over in my head. 

She's seven now. My son is four and a half. They are the only two people in the world who truly NEED me. I don't want to miss their childhood. I want this summer with them. I want to focus on every tiny detail and soak it all in while I can.

I will still be on Twitter and Facebook, answering emails and keeping in touch. I just won't be writing, blogging, or beta reading until school starts back in the fall. At that point it's my hope that a story will bombard me. Something wicked and sexy and daring and delicious. I don't want the storyboard of my mind to be blank forever. Just the next eight to ten weeks. And then Kai, or some equally hott character, can burst to life and have their way with my hands. Because I love writing for you, and I can't wait to give you more.

But for now, this is what I plan to do. Oh, and maybe I'll clean the house a bit more. I'm sure my hardworking husband would love that, lol. I don't know. We'll see.  :-)



To all my "Sweeties" out there, have a wonderful summer. Enjoy your books. Enjoy your families.

Hugs,
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  1. That's nice! Have a good, quiet summer, with lots of kid snuggles :) My 6 year old has been waking me up in the morning with a snuggle and it's awesome.

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    1. Snuggles rule. When I actually make time for them. :) Enjoy, Sarah!

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  2. Enjoy your break Wendy! I hope such painful moments won't come again when it comes to you and your family.

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    1. Thank you! That was definitely an eye-opener, and it's helped me get my priorities straight.

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  3. Can't think of a better way to spend your summer.

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    1. Thank you! We're having a blast so far. We've got swimming lessons, the beach, music camp, and a road trip to Georgia planned!

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  5. Take your time with your family, I'm sure your kiddos are gonna enjoy having mommy to themselves! And I'm sure having time for them, for yourself and to read for fun will ensure you'll have a story or more than one begging to be put to paper by the time is back to school time!

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  6. Enjoy your summer. Its good to take a break and spend time with the ones you love. :-)

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  7. It's hard when you're "in the trenches" (as I like to call it) to remember how babies are only babies for just a teeny, tiny while...mine are 10, 6, and 4 so I totally understand how you feel! (PS I was just wondering the other day how in the actual hell do I have a TEN year old?! That's like a friggin' DECADE! What? How? What?!) Enjoy this time with your sweeties because (as much as it pains me to say because I believe I'm actually more in love with Kai than my own hubby - please don't tell him, btw) those darling babies are more important. Can't wait to see what the Fall brings us from you :)

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    1. Exactly, Jennifer!!! And lol about Kai. ;P My lips are sealed.

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  8. Ah, them tears!!! Sorry, this post just made me emotional. My sister turned 16 last week and graduated from what we here in Estonia call middle school. I'm not sure how it's called in the states, I think it's the same. Anyhow, she's starting HS this fall and I can't believe she's so grown up. Where was I when that happened? I was probably enjoying my youth and finishing HS, attending college and working and hanging out with my friends. I was living my life. But still, I feel like my little sister has grown up while I wasn't watching and it sucks just a tiny bit that I haven't noticed. I hope you'll have one of the best summers of your life and don't worry about us missing your sweet posts and writing. The longer the wait, the sweeter the reunion;) Heh. Love you and hug your pumpkins! They deserve to have their Mom with them as much as possible. *hugs*

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    1. Love ya, Siiri! Hugs to you and your little sis, too.

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  9. I am a child....well a teenager now who knows what its like to have parents who work all the time. I think its absolutely great that you acknowledge that you need to spend more time with them. Its the little things that make all the difference in the world. As much as I will miss you writing, this is the right thing to do. :-):-):-) I support you 100%

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    1. Ah, Victoria, that means so much!
      My head is empty but my heart is full. <3

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    2. Sometimes that's all you can ask for. <3<3<3 wish you all the best this summer

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  10. That's good for you I have seen authors whi burn them selfs out by writeing all the time. You can't force good creative writing its got to come to you and the best way to do that is by experencing all that life has to offer. I have been writing one book cence 2007 I haven't even tried to have it published because I don't feel that its the best it could be. I'm alway creating situations and se narios in my head. You are my second favorite author not for you writing but for your devotion to your fans having come out of no where and give the world a hidden tresure. Brent Weeks is very mutch from the same situation he had a awsome story oily s wufe yold him to just go and publish it and he did he is now a new york yimes best seller and is working on his sixth book of his second series and has them in multiple languages across the world. he his dedicated to his fans just as you are and I hope my first of many books will be as great as both of your guys.

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    1. Aw, Robert that is wonderful to hear! Thank you for commenting! It's ALL about the fans/readers when it comes to writing.

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  11. Your kids are adorable! Don't you love the wisdom of children sometimes? My girls are in CA visiting their grandparents, which means I'm hustling on trying to get my agent's revision notes taken care of, trying to get my ms ready to sub this summer. But...when my kids come home, I have plans for us. Nothing elaborate. But taking walks in the woods, and joining the summer reading program at the library, and playing in the Puget Sound. I can't take the summer off from writing, but I'm with you: a summer exploring the world with little ones and snuggling sounds like a great use of time! :)

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    1. Sounds wonderful!! Good luck getting everything done, Rachel, and enjoy your summer! :)

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  12. Sounds like a great way to spend the summer Wendy. Make lots of memories and just soak up being with your adorable kiddos.

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  13. Sounds like a great way to spend the summer Wendy. Make lots of memories and just soak up being with your adorable kiddos.

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  14. Great decision :))) ... doesn't mean we're not going to miss you loads :'(

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  15. Hi Wendy! It's tatasha25 (Tasha.K) on twitter! I guess I'm too late to be a part of the beta reader event :( Oh well, I only have one more exam to go! YEAH!! Then I can start my summer by reading you Sweet Peril! FINIAALLLLYYYY! :) Keep us updated about this beta event! Take care and enjoy your summer with you kids and family!!! You should really take a break!!! :) I'll tweet you on twitter ;) XOXO

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